It's official! We'll be moving this summer!! We are so excited but also a bit overwhelmed with everything. My husband will have to go on ahead of us but at least it won't be forever, just a little while to get things here tied up and finished and also so he can find us a place to live.
On that same note, I can't decide if I want to keep up this blog or retire it. If you are still reading this, let me know. Otherwise, I'm going to archive everything and move on as leaving this public is no longer informing my friends and family of our lives and I only receive spam through the comments.
Thanks!
22 April 2012
21 April 2012
Unsolicited Advice
I'm just pondering this morning why we, as humans, give unsolicited advice. It's one thing to ask someone for advice, but why do we offer it so often when it isn't requested and, quite frankly, not needed.
I was recently asked for what I interpreted as advice. I then proceeded to give ALL my feedback and didn't restrain. I should have clarified some points before just dumping all of my assumed expertise in the area...and that assumption was on my own part, not on the poor soul who asked a simple question. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but am now pondering my response because several people have now vomited their advice about my life unsolicited. I say "vomit" because it happens all the sudden without notice and it's all out before it's done...no one can seem to bottle it up.
Because this can seem quite the contradiction, I am first putting this out here for anyone who has ideas on why we do this but also how to check yourself so that I can NOT do this again. And, thirdly, I would love to hear your thoughts on how to kindly and gently but assertively guide a conversation away from the advice column.
I was recently asked for what I interpreted as advice. I then proceeded to give ALL my feedback and didn't restrain. I should have clarified some points before just dumping all of my assumed expertise in the area...and that assumption was on my own part, not on the poor soul who asked a simple question. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but am now pondering my response because several people have now vomited their advice about my life unsolicited. I say "vomit" because it happens all the sudden without notice and it's all out before it's done...no one can seem to bottle it up.
Because this can seem quite the contradiction, I am first putting this out here for anyone who has ideas on why we do this but also how to check yourself so that I can NOT do this again. And, thirdly, I would love to hear your thoughts on how to kindly and gently but assertively guide a conversation away from the advice column.
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